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Ian replied:
two responses to this:
a) so is monogamy! you just already know the contract in advance so you don't have to deliberate it. in absolute terms, poly "contracts" are no more or less constrained, but there are things you can do under them that are not in a monogs contract, if that's of interest to you.
b) relationship anarchists exist, who do whatever whenever with whomever. some folks pull it off, but most folks find the contract-and-stipulations method, though a headache, lessens drama in the long run.
in summation: all relationships are work. just decide what work you wanna do.
Anonymous commented:
What bothers me the most poly/non-monogamous couples - They supposedly fuck but are somehow still the most sexless and unromantic people at the same time. Everything is under contract and stipulations!